The Meaning Of Christmas: It’s About The People We Love

The Meaning Of Christmas: It’s About The People We Love

By Amanda Fox

Over the past couple weeks, we’ve focused on the holidays and what they mean to us. The importance of giving and forgiving, compassion and we even tossed in a couple funnies to keep the smiles coming. We’ve been thrilled that many of you chimed in with your views on the holidays and what is and is not important. We’ve been even happier to hear from a few of you that you got involved and helped out the less fortunate, made an effort to mend some fences or started taking the first steps toward reclaiming the joy of the season.


This season, these holidays we celebrate, are for everyone. Whether you are religious or not, no matter what your age is, the color of your skin, where you are or how much or little money you have, the holidays are about peace, joy and ultimately love. It’s great if you have traditions to follow this time of year and a large group of people to share them with, but if you don’t, nothing says you can’t begin them now. New traditions and friends spring up everyday from everywhere.

The past several years, for me, have been about reclaiming that spirit and passing it on. Initially, I thought what would make me feel good was the grand gesture of the tree and twinkling lights, gifts to the rafters and people surrounding me the entire day. I was wrong. The Christmas tree is great, but at the end of the day it’s a symbol. Presents are wonderful gestures that we are being thought of, but they aren’t everything. The people we surround ourselves with are what it is all about.


Even if Christmas is a “disconnect day” for you, consider bending that rule for a friend

We surround our self over Christmas day with family and close friends which is great! But what about those without someone near them? Are we to leave them alone lost in their own solitude? The answer is no. What we need to do is stop for a second and pick out just one person we know is alone and make the effort to spend time with them. Even if it is just 20 minutes to drop by and deliver some well wishes, it does matter.

Consider for a second as well, all the friends we have online. Some we spend as much, if not more, time with than we do those physically near us. Do we abandon those friends on this day that may very well be alone? Do we tag them in a photo wishing them and 49 other people well and feel satisfied we’ve done enough? Some of us may, but we shouldn’t. Pick one or two of those people online that you are closest to who may be alone over the holiday and spend a little time with them. Just because it’s online doesn’t mean the time and contact don’t matter or are somehow lesser. Pickup a phone and call if you have that type of relationship. Take it from someone who knows, it’s nice to receive well wishes the day before Christmas, but it’s not the same as receiving them on Christmas day. The key, is to make genuine contact.


Connect and let the love flow

Make giving yourself a part of your gifting plan this year. Some of us are on tighter schedules than others, but we can all find a little time to share with someone who could use a friend. The holidays are meant for friends and families and being together. It doesn’t matter if that is face to face or online, it is about connecting . . . Be together with those you love over these magical days wherever they are.

We are blessed with the Internet – that’s right – blessed. We can use it to post pictures of cats, rant and rave or tell everyone what we had for every meal we’ve eaten everyday of the year, so we damn well ought to use it for something good too. Being together with those we love and care about, at least for a little while, is something we all need to do. Make it a point to connect with someone you know is going to need your friendship on this special day.

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  1. It is so easy to get caught up in the peripheral stuff. Your reminder to focus on what is really important in this season helps me to stop and consider what that is. The tragedies that have left so many unopened presents help me to focus on my own blessings.

  2. Tracy says:

    Mele Kalikimaka Amanda! It IS about the people we love, thank you for the gift of yourself. <3

  3. Jon Alex says:

    Merry Christmas to all of the responder!! Thanks a llot

  4. Amanda, another wonderfully thoughtful blog, and one that is very touching at this time of year, putting the real importance of the occasion into perspective. Having had some problems myself at various points of my life, I am more conscious that for some Christmas can be an emotionally difficult or lonely time. It’s so good to see you address this important issue, and encourage us to go out of our way to give in such simple but meaningful ways to others. Thank you.

  5. Michelle Gilstrap says:

    We never know when we will see someone for the last time, telling them you love them is a small thing that each of us can do to brighten their day. Wonderful post.

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