Another Example Of Ignorance And Brutality

Another Example Of Ignorance And Brutality

By Barbara Farina

After the publication of yesterday’s column (which I believe is excellent), there were several responses to it received by some  of us. Luckily, I have to say that the article was generally well received.

 
But as always, there are people who never ceases to amaze me. In this case, it was not a good thing. The level of ignorance and brutality of some people not only infuriates me, it shows how many things are wrong with the world about this topic.
One person even told me that rape “its just a surprise sex nothing else”.  A big WOW!! It falls short in this situation, but what else can I say? I was totally creeped out, angry and disgusted.

 

We need to respect life and the rights of others

We need to respect life and the rights of others

It does not end here, because apparently this person had many more things to say such as: “in every part of this world people get raped … its just because of our self weakness … nothing else :) if we self are strong then no one can dare to think about raping us …” I’m sure his mother must be very proud of him. I hope it never happens to my children, but this person was ambivalent about the possibility of it happening to anyone he knew. It was just one of those things. The cost of being “weak”. To him, if you cannot have consensual sex, take them by surprise. Just thinking about it turns my stomach and make feel sick.

 
Just to make it clear, in the world, YES, many people are raped regardless of gender, age or religion.

 
To think that because he was a man it could not happen to him or because he believed men are strong enough it never would happen to a man, shows another of the problems we face. Ignorance and lack of information can cause havoc. The taboos about speaking openly on the subject may even lead many people to suicide.
The fact that the issue is addressed as if it were a joke makes many men, women and children who suffer daily violations afraid to speak and to report what is happening. What message are we giving our children if the message is what this person says? Let us be realistic, he is not the only one who thinks and says these things aloud. We encountered many more that believe, or at least say, it is not there problem since it won’t happen to them. But what if it does?

 

What if they ever get raped and then have to face the reality that all their defensive mantras failed? What if it happens to their child and they encounter authorities and even family that tells them they just should have been stronger. They should have fought harder. They got what they deserved. What happens then?

 

Good advice for everyone to follow regardless of gender

Good advice for everyone to follow regardless of gender

I worry about the number of teens who justify violations or abuse of any kind just to remain popular, perhaps because it has happened and is the best way to cover up what is happening. We don’t need to rehash the numerous examples of this in the news. We’ve all lived long enough to know that it’s not just adults committing this brutal crime, it is our youth as well. They see others get away with it and think, “why not?”. It can’t be that bad – if it was – why would the news and all these people in the community champion the rapists? That is a big part of what enables these crimes.

 
I think it’s time to change the message and teach our children that NO means No. Whether it is said loudly, muted, forcefully or timidly, it always means no.  It is time that we continue to teach, from the youngest age possible, that no one can touch you without your consent. It is time to teach kids that if they ever find something like this, if they have to talk and report what happened to parents, teachers, police and any authority figure in their life that can come to their aid.

 
There are many people willing to help. Understand that it is not the victim’s fault no matter what anyone says. Society and the world have to say enough is enough and fight for what is right and defend those in need.

 
There is no excuse to rape or abuse anyone in any way.

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  1. James Mattson says:

    No does mean No!!! Aretha Franklin sang it R.E.S.P.E.C.T. it’s anthem still rings out loud and clear today.Fellow men if you truly love her respect her.When a person is forced against their will to do things beat up,all sorts of abuse is wrong.I’m a single man and it makes me very mad when i have had my female that just friends cry on my shoulder so to speak who’ve been abused sexually or physical and mentally.Their spirit is broken,their heart has a knife it and they find it hard to trust even if a good hearted man comes in their life.The scars are forever in their heart deep inside as they lay at night tears soaking their pillows.I love somebody who is in bad situation,I have to be patient with her and give her the best i can,Unconditional Love and I hope one day she can love me and trust me that she will want to take the next step,there are times I want to just love her physically,if i truly love her i must wait and keep just being there for her. God help me to help her always and honestly respect. Take care everyone.

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