Homeschool Comments 101

Homeschool Comments 101

By Tracy Madlener

“Yes, I homeschool my kids.  No, I won’t take your kids and homeschool them too!”


When other moms find out I homeschool my kids, it never fails, I get the same comments all the time… “I could never do that!” or “I don’t have the patience.” or “You must be a Saint!”  Now let’s think about what’s been said by these moms and break down what it is that these words mean to me as a homeschool mom.


“I could never do that!”– How could someone say, “never,” if they’ve never tried it?  I don’t understand those who tell me never as if it’s their final decision etched in stone.  Wouldn’t these moms want to try something or anything that has everything to do with their child’s future outcome?  If someone told me that my kids could have favorable results in their schooling and an ongoing love for learning, I’d be asking for more information!  Maybe it’ll work, maybe it won’t, but the word never would not be a part of my vocabulary, especially when my children’s future success depends on it.


You can handle homeschooling!

“I don’t have the patience.”– Patience is something that is practiced.  I have learned that over the past ten years of homeschooling my kids, that, and a nice shot of bourbon at the end of my day!  Seriously, this comment makes me wince every time I hear it.  Not enough patience?  Then why even bother becoming a parent?


Patience is waking up three to four times a night when your baby wants to eat.  Patience is when you spend an hour and a half sitting in the bathroom by the plastic training potty clapping your hands every time your toddler acknowledges that that’s the place to poop.  Patience is rereading Goodnight Moon for the third time in a row because you’re hoping your child will fall asleep at the next, “Good night bears.  Good night chairs…”  To tell me that they don’t have patience to teach their child basically says to me that their child is bothersome and they don’t want to deal with them on a daily basis.  Again, why did they become a parent?


“You must be a Saint!”– Thank you, I’ll accept that comment graciously, but I’m no Saint!  I am resourceful, creative, open-minded, flexible, and someone who goes through lots of boxes of hair color!  I do my best to be a good role model not only for my kids, but for other parents who want to try something new but are unsure of where to start.  I’m always willing to share my knowledge about the homeschool community and be as helpful as I can so that those moms with questions maybe have a new perspective on what’s best for their children’s education.


After chatting with me for a few minutes, the new comment from these moms are always the same, “Can you teach my kids at your house?  I’ll pay you!”– The point of homeschooling my kids is to homeschool my kids.  My kids are thriving with their education because I can do that, I do have the patience, and maybe I am part Saint

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  1. Thank you for sharing! This is an awesome article that really helped me decide that I can home-school my girls!

  2. BRAVO I taught school to the deaf and the blind when I was a very young woman…… a nun. I hated not allowing their creativity come out.
    Years later as a volunteer teacher in the resources room of both of the school systems I had the freedom to encourage the creative part of learning not the cookie cutter of the previous life.

    Moulding the creativity is the prima moment of life. I applaud you for doing this with your own life and with your children. again BRAVO

  3. MM says:

    Great piece and I especially love what your wrote about patience and parenting. It’s absolutely true! And, yes, we homeschool, too. And, yes, I have had to find the same patience for my teen as I needed to find when he was a toddler and I was reading “Goodnight Moon” and “Peter Rabbit” for the umpteenth time!

  4. Diana says:

    Thank you for putting our thoughts into words! You ARE a great role model for all of us!

  5. Tracy says:

    Keep up the great work. If we wish to have public school teach in any capacity we need to teach them how to stop blaming children for not being able to learn within their environment and educate teachers about the different types of learners there are in the world. It is not difficult. Teachers used to understand and teach this way many years ago.

    There is more to a child than his/her brain. We are seeing the results of only feeding the brain to take tests does to society as a whole. Not much thinking and a whole lot of emotional reacting.
    Thank you for doing such a great job
    Mary Blouin to get

    • Tracy M. says:

      Thank you Tracy for sharing your thoughts. There’s more to being educated than test taking and mindless busy work for sure, and yes, unfortunately, the results of that are coming in and it doesn’t look very smart.

  6. Lisa Lyons says:


    Homeschooling is not really the right word to use because we all home school our children to a degree. No matter where your children learn, you are putting all your efforts into homework, travel to classes , work and basic life needs…….making you a brave sort of parent in your own way, forging a path to find the right learning situation & place……….you are an amazing parent to show up and try!!! Homeschooling is not something we do to our or for our children. It is a life style one can experience using a different hat / place to find the educational need. As a result we have a lot more freedom for parent directed, student led learning after all the basics. The result we are experiencing helps us find a lifestyle based on our living & learning needs, then we mix it all together. It is not an easier or better way because we can do it well. Over the 23 years I have invested learning with the children in this way, I too have heard these fun comments. Thanks for sharing!

  7. Tracy M. says:

    Wow… thanks Lisa for the encouraging words! Yes it’s true, homeschool IS a lifestyle… :)

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