I have to say I do not really like Valentine’s Day. I’m not exactly it’s biggest fan. But before you judge let me tell you why.
Yes indeed, I am against celebrating the day of love. I do not like it, but that does not mean that I am against love or angry or do not appreciate the people in my life that make life worth living. I can’t put my finger on exactly what it is I do not like, but I think it is a partly the commercial connotation of the day. Feeling forced to make grand gestures to prove love doesn’t sit well with me.
I think if you are in love, you celebrate love every day. Every day, even if it is not a really good day, is a day of love. Why not celebrate every day when you choose to be with someone? If, after all we chose to be with someone because we like, love and want to be together, then that is worth celebrating from the moment we wake up until we fall asleep and then in our dreams. We shouldn’t need reminders of this.
Love is much more than an expression of one day a year and we should not limit ourselves to celebrate only once. With every act, every touch, every word, every one of our actions, we show who is with us as we love them and how much we care about them. A bouquet of flowers, a box of chocolates, a card or even a gift of some sort once a year does not mean that someone is in love with us or vice versa. What it feels like is someone is doing something only because they feel compelled to do it because everyone else is – and of course on Valentine’s Day, that is often because we have ads in our face for a month leading up to that day constantly telling us we need to “show our love” on this one “special” day.
Love and relationships are built each day. We celebrate every day and enjoy every day. Personally I do not need a date to do all this. There is nothing more beautiful than when your partner, for no apparent reason, brings you a flower or surprises you with a romantic dinner. Having that romantic moment in the middle of the chaos and the stress that any old day, regardless of when it is during the year, is priceless.
What happens if on this commercially driven day of love we are upset with our soulmate? Would we still feel like we need to celebrate the day of love? Would forcing ourselves to pretend that everything is okay for one day make everything okay in reality? Would we realize that there is nothing wrong with us just getting through the day and working on whatever the problem is? Isn’t that in and of itself a gesture of love – free from cards, candies, flowers and who knows what that someone may not even be able to really afford but feels compelled to give because if they don’t…. I do not think it’s a good idea to pretend everything is good just to celebrate “Valentine´s Day”.
One of the nicest things about love is that it is sincere and if I have to pretend that essence and purity that is love is lost, vanishes between gifts and fake smiles just to be part of a commercial celebration, I want no part of it. When was the last time you did something romantic with your partner, without feeling compelled by anything other than your love to celebrate the life you share together? When was the last time you had a date with your love – even if you’ve been married for years?
The truth is that with the coming and going of everyday life, we often forget the most important things like telling our loved ones how much we love them and how we enjoy spending our life with them. Valentine’s Day or not, we have to prove to all those we love how much they mean to us. A hug, a touch or a kiss often makes the difference, and somehow reaffirms the love that we have with the other person. Keep falling in love, showing how great their love is and enjoy it every day. I don’t need Hallmark to tell me that.
“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
― Dr. Seuss
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